SUPPORT MESSAGES

When we organised the first Pride Ride, the biggest support came from the internet. People made a stance, to stand up and take notice and tell people that we stand for equality against all form of...

Lost Childhood

She was just 5 years old when he slid his hands between her legs for the first time. He? He was her own cousin. It was just another lazy night for me when my friend told me about her childhood. It took me some time to realize the fact that she was sexually assaulted when she was just a child, just five years old. I always felt that “rape”, “molestation” and other crimes against women were simply disgusting, but I only realized the intensity of such a crime when someone so close to me had to go through it. One man’s pleasure left a permanent scar on her entire life, His lust took away her childhood, His desperation gifted her with sleepless nights and endless days, some of which even I shared after she told me about it. She is eighteen now. Strong, independent, cheerful and gregarious. It was only recently that I figured out that it was all just a fake cloak that she would use to cover up her deep scars. How do I comfort her? How do I tell her that everything happened for a reason? How do I convince myself that the same won’t happen to all the other women I care about? I have no hopes of ever finding an answer to all my questions. I had the best childhood anyone could ask for, perks of being the first-born in the family you may say. I was always surrounded by people, people who cared about me. I always got what I wanted. It is only fair to say that I did take all that for granted. For me, my childhood memories are the most beautiful moments that I can dig out of the very limited vaults of my mind....

Rape. Whose fault is it?

  Yesterday, when I went online, half of my newsfeed was populated with reports and articles about Maria Sharapova not knowing Sachin Tendulkar. My first thoughts were, how is it that there is not even half this response to the rape cases happening all over the country? I was just telling my neighbour that the number of people reacting to this issue is literally more than half the number of people who reacted to the UP rape case , which happened on 30th may this year. That’s when he carelessly commented that there are so many rape cases, how can we keep tabs on them? As in seriously, if it was your daughter or sister being raped would you still be able to give the same response? That’s when he started arguing that he has brought up his sister in ‘sanskarik’ way so she won’t be raped. ‘Seriously dude, where did you get your logic from’ was all I wanted to ask him. He still argues that even if there ‘might’ (stress’s on the might part) be fault on the guys’ part it is the responsibility of the girl to have prevented it. Does this mean he would have told his sister or daughter the same thing if it had happened to them? Of course not! This is the problem with the way of thinking of our society, you hear about a rape, you say, “oh that was bad” and all but silently, you are glad that it wasn’t your daughter or sister. Does this mean our society will not speak up against it, until it happens to each and every girl and woman of our society? Something I read in the article about Sharapova not knowing Sachin was “Many argued that since Sharapova was a sportsperson she should know about other sportsmen”. I ask you, aren’t we all humans? Aren’t the girls and women who were raped, humans? Then why aren’t we arguing with the way and the amount of time our government takes to put the culprits behind bars and why aren’t all of us arguing about the safety of our women and children? I ask all those jingoistic fans of Sachin out there, is cricket more important than the safety of the women and girls of our society? All of you spoke up against someone not knowing Sachin, but how is it that there was hardly such an uproar from the entire country about the 2 teenage girls raped and strangled to death in UP, a month and a half ago? Sure there was quite an uproar in the state but what about the country as whole? Did you know that the policemen who where at the station that day, when the relatives of those girls had gone to lodge a complaint, blamed the teenage girls and their parents for the crime, siding with the culprits? Did you know that if they had taken some action that day then the girls wouldn’t have been raped again and murdered the next day; then they would still be alive today ? When you can talk so much about something so trivial as someone not knowing Sachin, I ask you, why can’t you stand up against a crime of this magnitude? Just because it wasn’t your daughters or sisters who were raped, does not mean they weren’t daughters and sisters of someone else! That doesn’t mean we should not fight for their justice!  Every woman, Every girl out there has the complete right to safety as our sisters and daughters do! I blame the way our society thinks! Yesterday, all the girls of my school were called by the principal and she blamed only the girls for whatever may happen. May I ask why? Is it because , as one of politicians Mr.Yadav said “Boys make mistakes , how can we hang them for rape?” It is because of that illogical way of thinking that...