Being Gay 2 Apr05

Being Gay 2

Let me begin this by showing a picture of the text message that I got after writing my first post on Against Ignorance I never told the person who sent me these messages about my sexuality yet after reading the article, that’s what he had to say. Being gay is not bad or dark, like the movie sets of “Twilight” or “Sleepy Hollow”.  It’s about love. It’s about seeing a person’s true self. It’s about your friends making you feel “No matter what, I will be there for you”.  I don’t know how this works but from what I have experienced, if you belong to any of LGB or T, magically people start to love you more. (Well, they have their own reasons. No matter how greek god-ish you look, you are no longer a threat to another guy! Amen!) People start to love you. Things doesn’t just stop there, they will let you know that you are loved. I think that is more important. Showing the true affection what you feel for others. All of a sudden you are their valued possession. There will always be someone around you. People start to raise their voices to defend you. I’ll tell you something which happened to me. My best friend is a proper traditional Rajasthani Rajput guy, 2 years elder than me. He has only seen the concept of homosexuality in American movies. He was the first person whom I came out to during my under graduation days. It was a telephonic conversation and when I told him that I was gay, he didn’t speak for about 30 seconds. Pure silence. After that he asked me have I tried changing myself. He even tried to find me a girlfriend in college so that I’ll...

Being Gay Apr02

Being Gay

My name is Gopu. I am doing my masters in Human genetics and molecular biology. I wanted to do masters in social work but my heart beats for DNA. Well, who said that I can’t be a “social work-ing geneticist” ? I hate the colour pink, I’m a blue/red guy. Dog person. Scared of heights, but did bungie jumping once. Yea, I like to live dangerously. I love dancing, sipping coffee, soaking in the sun, riding motorbikes, being with kids, watching gore stupid horror movies. Madhavikutty is my favorite author. I love songs by ABBA and Boney M. I have won many awards for my acting skills during my school days. During my under graduation, I discovered a new strain of bacteria “Bacillus foraminis” that has the potential of causing food poisoning. Oh! and I am Gay. If you are one of those stereotypical Indian citizens who are bothered about a person’s sex life and orientation than understanding the fact that there is more to a person than his sexual preference, then I guess you are not interested in this article anymore. All my achievements are irrelevant, just because I am not into women. Being gay in India is dramatic. Here you are always expected to be this hyper – masculine, testosterone – oozing super male who can hit sixes in cricket and with women at the same time. If you are anything less than this, then you do not qualify to be an Indian “Mard” . Here, people raise their children just to mate with the opposite gender and populate the streets. Understanding one’s self and accepting one’s own sexuality is itself a huge thing that requires courage. When you feel that you are not normal, you cannot tell about the way you...